Too heavy

In the book of Exodus, when all of the people are bringing their problems directly to Moses, he goes to talk to his father-in-law.  His father-in-law says, "This thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone."  He goes on to give Moses some relief, but I think maybe the most helpful thing he did was to say "this thing is too heavy for you - you shouldn't have to carry it all by yourself."

This looks like it would be too heavy and too hot to handle

I really want to hear that.  I really want someone to look at me and say - Jaime, you mean you are trying to carry all of the financial burden for two peoples' living expenses, all of the financial planning, all of the initiation of housework, cooking, shopping, and event and short and long-term life planning?  While you're in grad school?   You're trying to remain emotionally stable yourself while trying to accurately read how Dave is doing and figuring out and then providing the best support to him?  You don't know when, if ever, that burden will shift?  You think it will just get harder for ever after from here when we add kids to the mix?

Jaime, this thing is too heavy for you.  You don't have to carry it all by yourself.

But at the same time, I know that I could do it all by myself.  And I know that there are people out there who shoulder bigger burdens all the time.

But I don't want to carry this on my own.  I want someone to tell me I shouldn't, and I don't have to.

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Note:  I was really hesitant to actually post this, because I was afraid of how Dave would take it.  But it actually led to a good discussion between us, and he encouraged me to post it.  But I will tell you, as I told him, my three fundamental points:
          1.  Even if Dave were not doing anything to help us with finances/housework/etc.,  I would still chose to have him as a part of my life - he still provides me with support and love and happiness I really need.
          2.  I happily and gratefully proclaim that Dave does a lot to help us - laundry, dinners, dishes, you name it.  I just have to initiate everything, and sometimes ask him several times to do it (I hope that doesn't sound like nagging: Dave tells me I don't nag), and that load gets tiresome.
          3.  I know that I can handle it.  Given that Dave is doing everything he can right now to manage his depression, but is unable to initiate any work outside of some homework, and given that our current financial state won't allow me to hire any help, the only option is for me to carry everything.  And I can do it - in fact, I know that other people carry heavier loads all the time.