In this post, I wrote about how I felt like being a wife and being a wife of a husband with depression were completely different roles, and I had to learn how to adjust to my new role as wife of a husband with depression.
Well, Dave is doing so incredibly well now, that I feel like my role as wife of a husband with depression is (at least temporarily) obsolete. And it surprises me to say that I've been having trouble adjusting back to my role as just wife!
I'm used to showing love in the context of Dave's depression. I show love by accepting Dave as he is, and by doing everything that needs to be done without complaining to him or myself. So when Dave started doing all the cleaning, cooking all our meals, and even bringing me home flowers, I felt a little out of place. I didn't know, anymore, how to show my love for him.
I'm starting to remember, now. But it has been a transition!
Jaime, this sounds like a welcome role change, however strange. What have you done to adjust? Also, I pray that things stay like this for as long as possible!
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