In this post, I wrote about how I felt like being a wife and being a wife of a husband with depression were completely different roles, and I had to learn how to adjust to my new role as wife of a husband with depression.
Well, Dave is doing so incredibly well now, that I feel like my role as wife of a husband with depression is (at least temporarily) obsolete. And it surprises me to say that I've been having trouble adjusting back to my role as just wife!
I'm used to showing love in the context of Dave's depression. I show love by accepting Dave as he is, and by doing everything that needs to be done without complaining to him or myself. So when Dave started doing all the cleaning, cooking all our meals, and even bringing me home flowers, I felt a little out of place. I didn't know, anymore, how to show my love for him.
I'm starting to remember, now. But it has been a transition!
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Monday, January 9, 2012
Milestones
For the past year or so, Dave's email inbox has been piling up with unread emails. Yesterday, he found a way to mark all of his thousands of unread emails as read, so he would be able to keep track of all new emails.
He told me about this with a little smile and obvious happiness. He said it sounded like a small thing, but that it was a milestone - he actually wanted to do something about his email inbox, and he found something to do about it.
There have been so many milestones in rapid succession. He organized all of his classes and registered and is on track for graduation. He came home from school and decided he wanted to clean. He did almost all the paperwork for his thesis.
This is incredible. So cool.
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